You may want to look into APM monitoring on something like data dog or new relic. Application Monitoring should give you a better idea of things like requests over time to see if you're hitting issues when getting spikes in HTTP requests or what your other bottlenecks are (vs blackfire which may show a more limited view of just what's going on in code and not necessarily how that affects overall servesr).
There's a few resources in the PHP topic in servers for hackers that explains how you might want to decide what to set your PHP-FPM max_processes (etc) to. Specifically the top two video series linked there talk about it.
There's also my Scaling Laravel course which can give you pointers on how to scale out (altho what your bottlenecks are isn't specifically covered - generally you'll need some monitoring to inform you of that).