proxomos's avatar

How NOT to use this forum

Sometimes when you've been hard at it all day, you run into a challenge that has simple solution, yet you can't see it for looking.

When you want to help someone is it for the Kudos? or to genuinely offer assistance to someone who is struggling?

I face one of those moments today. I was at the end of 14 hour day coding an admin system for a watch company and I could not get the results of a collection. All it was, I had not cast a variable to an array, problem was solved by an eagle eyed member here.

Another had offered advice but clearly was losing patience rapidly and in the end finished off by calling me an effing idiot.

I pity him as clearly he was only interested in upping his Kudos with best answer score.

Please users come here for help, not abuse, this turns people off and they will go elsewhere, there is no need for it.

rant over.

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piljac1's avatar

I don't know the exact context, but you're totally right. However, I'll add an asterisk.

This forum goes both ways. On one side, you have the "askers" and on the other you have the "answerers" (people can be both, but normally there's a side that is more popular). Askers get the benefit of having other people helping solve their problem. On the other hand, answerers receive gratitude, which is normally expressed by a like and/or a best answer.

These are the ideal cases, but both sides sometimes go out of their way. For example, an asker can lose its patience and express it in forms of passive-aggressiveness or straight up disrespect. People are here to help, for free, so the least you owe them is politeness and gratitude. On the other end, I think answerers genuinely want to help others, but sometimes, their desire to up their score comes into play, which may result in the same way, and it's not ok.

I personally am mostly an answerer. I am proud of it because I get to help others and refine my knowledge (win win right!). However, I would be hypocritical if I told you it never hit me when I genuinely believe I gave the best answer and someone else would get it by saying the exact same thing after me, or when the asker himself marks his own answer which states exactly what I said as the best answer. Still, that doesn't give me the right to rant about what I think, because it's my own personal opinion and the only real goal is to help the person in question.

Sorry for the long explanation, but I hope you understand my point haha.

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jlrdw's avatar

Generally this forum is more relaxed, but name calling - no. I hardly ask questions neither, I just enjoy trying to help. But some forums are more strict, Eclipse forum require a little more than some folks put here, so and so don't work. Or those check box how to's.

But @jeffreyway once gave me a friendly reminder all of use was new to this at one time, and folks new to it are trying to learn.

Just the other day I did have a question and someone answered my question. So I am overall glad it's a more relaxed forum and not super strict like stackoverflow. But agreed no name calling.

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Snapey's avatar

sometimes the person trying to help has had a tough day as well

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